Divine Timing.

Hey anon, you’re not offending me at all and I’m sorry I haven’t answered you sooner. Honestly, this is a topic I am somewhat confused on myself and I am torn as to how I feel. This will be a long-winded response so just bear with me. 

Just a side note before I answer this, it is a well known fact that the Christian church believes that homosexuality is a sin, I personally find that this is a much more complex topic that affects an array of feelings and beliefs but lets say for this responses sake, we’re looking at homosexuality from a religious standpoint. 

There are aspects of homosexuality that I don’t agree with but I’m sure there are aspects of my life that gay people don’t agree with, that’s life. I just feel that the church places so much emphasis on being gay. I feel that this is one of the more prevalent topics that Christians feel free to judge and condemn others and I believe that is wrong. My concern is this, I feel that there are so many other “issues” that affect our day to day lives that need to be dealt with. Again, assuming being gay is a sin, my question is why aren’t we dealing with other sins? What about people who lie? Or gossip? Or are greedy and hateful?  Why are we so concerned with condemning and hating gay people when there are so many other things to be worrying about within our churches. If we took that effort of trying to condemn gay people and used it to build up our own churches I think we would see more people come to God than ever.

Being gay is not very common in christian churches, I’m not sure if this is actually by choice or by fear of coming out, but I think the lack of being exposed to people of different sexual orientation leads to an “us and them” mentality which is very concerning to me. I think that because homosexuality is not prevalent in churches it becomes very  easy to judge gay people because we can keep them at arms length. Now say if churches were as concerned about gossiping or lying this condemnation would not go over as easy because they would be directly addressing people within their own congregation. Often times it’s easier to point fingers at others when you don’t have to look them in the eye. I feel as though sometimes churches don’t want to rock the boat within their own church so they find ways to push their views on people they don’t have to deal with on a day to day basis. I feel that sometimes the church or “crazy christians” can use hating gay people as a platform to bond them closer to each other, and this disgusts me. Gay people are human too, they have feelings and souls and they sure as hell deserve to be treated as such. I have friends that are gay and I cannot tell you how many times I have seen a kinder, more generous and dare I say it Godly hearts than those of people within my own church. I do not choose my friends based on their sexual orientation but rather on their hearts.

Although I am confused as to exactly how I feel about homosexuality I do know this, I will continue to love people as God loves me and I will continue to treat people with respect. By being disrespectful to people who are gay you are directly disrespecting God because you are degrading a human that he created. We need to take a step back from being so judgmental because in all honesty you’re not God and it is not your place to condemn so harshly. In Matthew 7:2 it says “for in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.” 

Let me say this before I end, I am sorry if I have offended anyone in any way. I took a long time to answer this question and I tried to be as tactful and respectful as I could. I understand that not all Christians act this way and that not all churches are judgmental. I am in no way trying to tell you how to live your life or what to believe. I respect your opinion, this is just mine.

- Perri

Hey Haley! The boots I’m wearing are Bass Duck Boots. I got them offline at the Bass website. I really love them! They run a little big just an FYI. But they’re great with some wool socks :) I hope that helps!